Answer with your mind
First pass: name what matters while you're thinking it through with a level head.
Two people · Two honest lists · One conversation
Discover what matters most by seeing where you align
Rank what matters with a clear head. Pause, then rank it again from the gut. Whatever holds steady across both is what actually matters. When you're both ready, compare with someone else.
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Compare · You & Sam
Where you line up.
#1A garden of our ownSame level#2
#2A walkable neighborhoodYou rank higher#1
#3Near waterSame level#3
#4Close to familySam higher#5
To discuss · only Sam named itA room to make things in
How it works
Four honest steps toward a conversation worth having.
Answer with your heart
Take whatever pause you need. When you're ready, answer again — this time from the gut, without checking your first list.
Reflect
See what stayed, what shifted between head and heart, and what only surfaced once.
Compare
Line your priorities beside someone else’s, talk it through, and decide on the truth together.
Why Align
The distance between two lists is where the honest signal lives.
Most tools ask you once and stop there. Align asks twice, with a pause in between — once with your head, then again with your heart. Only then does it check your answer against someone else’s. What surfaces is what actually differs, not what you assumed you’d agree on.
Head, then heart
The first pass is what you think. The second, after a pause, is what you feel. The truth lives in both.
Ranked, not rated
Dragging things into order forces the hard trade-offs a star rating lets you dodge.
Better with someone
Line up side by side, talk through what differs, and decide on a single shared truth together.
Gentle by design
Differences are framed as things to discuss — never scores to win or lose.
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